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A survey reported that 52% of people say they feel nearly always happy. Years back, I often told friends I felt that way, too, and I’m grateful to say that’s still true. These days, we’re flooded with tips and tricks on how to live a happy life on social media. Ironically, some articles on social media even tell us to quit using it to be happier.
But should we really aim to be happy all the time?
Although I am convinced that we are, in essence, happy entities, it is not always possible to express or feel this happiness. From my experience, happiness is not a state to chase endlessly or force upon ourselves. It’s more of a natural state we return to when we accept ourselves, our challenges, and our moments of sorrow. Here are a few insights on staying nearly always happy—and a few small suggestions you can try for yourself.
1. Embrace the Ups and Downs
We all have moments where life doesn’t go to plan. Whether it’s a lost opportunity, a disappointment, or a setback, the key is to allow yourself the space to feel. Give yourself permission to “cocoon” for a bit. Read a book, watch a comforting movie, or get extra rest. Accepting these moments isn’t a weakness; it’s part of the healing process. A good rule of thumb? Set a time limit on this pause. After that, step forward again with a lighter heart.
2. Write It Out
Grab a notebook and write yourself a letter about whatever’s bothering you. This exercise isn’t about fixing things immediately but clearing your mind and allowing feelings to flow freely. At the end of your letter, include a list of things you’re grateful for, even the smallest ones. This shift in focus often creates a powerful boost to our mood and sense of gratitude.
3. Set a Date to “Restart”
After processing, choose a specific day to re-engage with things you love. Mark it in your calendar. When the day comes, go out and do what brings you joy: reconnect with friends, dive into a favorite hobby, work on a personal goal, or get outside and enjoy nature. Moving forward with purpose can bring a natural lift to your spirits.
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4. Try a Positive Affirmation Practice
Affirmations work like mental vitamins, especially when they’re consistent. For the next 10 days, take a moment each day to repeat or write down a positive affirmation, such as “I am a happy being.” Repeating this can shift your mindset and anchor your thoughts in positivity.
5. Give Back
Doing something for others without expecting anything in return is one of the most powerful happiness boosters. Helping someone out, even with a simple gesture, is like giving yourself a happiness recharge.
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What About You?
Do you feel pressure to be happy all the time? Please, share your favorite techniques, affirmations, or uplifting resources with me—I’d love to hear them. If this article resonated with you, feel free to pass it along to friends, family, or colleagues who might benefit, too.
Thank you for reading and for helping to spread positivity.
Update: The original article was published on November 15, 2015, and was updated on November 8, 2024.
