Do you want Happiness or Fulfillment?

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I experience so much happiness, and I am thankful for that. But there is a difference between happiness and fulfillment. In this blog, I explain the difference and how you can experience a sustainable form of happiness: fulfillment. Even if you must do something that doesn’t make you happy.

In the past eight years of blogging, I’ve written six articles about happiness. It’s an important theme for me. You can read them again below (reading tip!):

-> 100 ways to experience more joy and happiness (I could add another 100 easy peasy!)

-> How to be nearly always happy

-> Happiness is simple to GRasP

-> 3 Ingredients of Happiness

-> Four Ps for more Happiness (and Success)

-> Experience Happiness on a Higher Level

The common thread of the articles is to take action to experience happiness. It is important to meet people, set goals, take care of yourself, and try new things. Happiness doesn’t just come to you if you don’t create the conditions for it.

I remember being happy with a compliment from a client about a project I had completed successfully. I was happy when I got a new gadget (a streaming deck for my computer). And I experienced happiness when I was dancing with friends at a party. They were all fun and beautiful moments. Of course, there are countless more moments of happiness in my life. However, happiness is short-lived and fades. It’s temporary. I no longer experience the intensity of emotion when I was promoted to head of a laboratory.


The fulfillment goes deeper and is a lasting experience of happiness. It doesn’t fade. You can even experience fulfillment when something is not fun or when it takes a lot of effort to do something. Afterward, it turns out that it didn’t take any effort and that you experience fulfillment.

Of course, I was extremely happy when my sons were born. Still, I don’t always like them. For example, if I get my broken bicycle back after they went out. Even though they do things I don’t always like, I still love them!

How do you experience a deeper fulfillment?

Connect to something bigger

You experience more fulfillment when you feel connected to something bigger than yourself.

I feel connected to the Māori and their Haka. I also feel connected to those who do a Haka dance with intensity. That’s why I dance the Haka with a lot of passion.

I feel connected to my church, Eckankar. I meet like-minded people there on my journey as Soul.

Obviously, I feel connected to my family and those who are no longer here. They play an important role in my life and how I became the person I am today

And I feel connected to the Denver Broncos. That’s an American football team. When I worked in America, they became champions. I received a cap from a colleague. Even though I never watch the Broncos’ games again, I don’t know how they are doing. I still feel connected to them. Why? Because they became champions in 1997 and 1998 and I was there. Maybe you still have a scarf from your hometown football team…

Make sure you do things you love

I love being with people. I love my job as a trainer, where I can connect with people and where they get excited about new things. I love to see people go through a transformation during a coaching session. I love blogging every two weeks and making life a little easier for others.

Discover your WHY

You experience more fulfillment when you contribute to a higher goal that has an impact. Happiness has to do with WHAT we do (reading tip: Now What?). Fulfillment is a result of WHY we do something.

The two most important moments of your life are the day you were born and the day you find out why.

—Mark Twain

You don’t make up a WHY. Your WHY is your unique contribution and its effect. It is already within you, and it’s based on your experiences.

A WHY is always positive, actionable, and infinite. Your WHY is based on the best of who you are.

Examples of inspiring WHY statements can be found here.

Do you want more passion in your work? Do you also want to have more fulfillment from your work? And do you also want to discover with what you can connect so that you contribute to a higher goal? Discover your WHY and take the first step today by reading this article to learn more about finding your WHY.

I can help you in your journey of discovery to your WHY. Contact me today to get to know me!

How do you experience more fulfillment? Even when things are hard? Let me know in the comment field below. The other readers of this article. and I are looking forward to reading from you!

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Have you seen an error in this article? Let me know! I am grateful!

—Simon Sinek, Find your WHY

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